Here and Now

It takes all kinds to make this world, sure. But the kind that I personally have no sympathy for are those who forever feel victimized. The ones who will always crib, always complain, who are always waiting for a future when life will be perfect, when all their dilemmas and problems will fade away, when they will be happy. I have the personal misfortune of knowing two such people rather closely. For them, life is never pleasant, life is never good enough, therefore the time to be happy is not now…it is somewhere in the distant unknown future.

As I see it, the time to be happy is now. We’ve all been given one life after all, it’s up to us to make the most of it. Meet as many people as possible, do as much justice to the relationships we already are in or the ones we are forging every day, make as much of the professional opportunities that come our way, live every goddamn dream.

Of course, life isn’t hunky dory every day, no one’s is, it isn’t supposed to be so. Stop kidding yourself that your life is tougher than of the one sitting next to you. For the simple reason that you are not leading his or her life, you are just leading your own. Your experiences, your ways of dealing with problems, situations, people are uniquely your own. Your life probably sucks because of the way you are dealing with it. Similarly somebody else’s life could be in ruins because of the way he or she is handling it. To each of us, our life is the toughest because the challenges we face are strictly individual.
Take a break, stop feeling like a martyr, you are not doing anyone a favor here by being on this planet, you think you have problems, chill...so does every one. Just that their way of handling it is different.

So you had a bad day at work, big deal...all of us go through it.
Your partner betrayed you, again, tough luck...but it happens.
Your friend misunderstood you, screw it...you know your conscience is clear.
Bad things happen to all of us, some call it misfortune, some call it destiny. You talk out your problems, share your bad days’ experience with someone…be it a friend, a spouse, a blog, and life bounces back, cool. But if you are the kinds who think life is in tatters no matter what you do or where you live or who all are a part of it, the problem lies with you, not with others and not with life as such.

To those who visit this blog regularly, it is okay if the post does not make sense. I probably would have very little to say if I read something like this somewhere else. You are welcome here of course, but it’s ok if this unlike-the-usual-Sayantani-Dasgupta post, fails to provoke you into making a statement.